Play, especially when self-directed, is not only natural — it is vital for our children’s emotional health. Through play babies naturally develop physical and cognitive skills, stretch their imaginations, flex creative muscles, build resiliency and a strong sense of self.
The quote above is from the article “Baby, You Are Born To Play” by Janet Lansbury, a proponent of RIE parenting. I can’t say I’m a full on RIE parent (actually I feel iffy attaching any label to my parenting, such as it is; I sort of do a little of this and a little of that style I guess), but a lot of the stuff I’ve read about RIE make sense to me. I’m not equipped enough to adequately describe what RIE parenting is all about (for that, you can check out this link), but letting kids enjoy uninterrupted, self-directed play is one of its principles.
I used to feel guilty for not spending a lot of time doing “activities” with my twins, but now I can just say, hey, RIE parenting! Ok, just kidding. There is RIE parenting and there is distracted parenting, which goodness knows is also one of the things I can be guilty of.
In any case, because they are now full-fledged toddlers, the twins have become increasingly adept at entertaining each other. As long as they know that I’m around, I can more or less just stay in one spot and let them do their own thing. Once in a while they’ll come up to me and sort of check in, tell me what they’re doing or ask for my help in something, then off they go again. They do pretend play, horse play, throw-everything-within-reach play, run-around-giggling play–whatever strikes their fancy. And should one twin happen to be asleep, the awake one is also capable of playing by herself. We’re still a long way to the point where I can actually work on my computer for long stretches while they play, but we’re also a long way off from when they needed to be entertained or held all the time.
Twins are definitely high-maintenance, especially in the infant days, but at this stage, the fact that they have each other is just all sorts of awesome. Here’s a short video that shows some of those awesome moments. Hope it brings a smile to your face 🙂
OMG! I cant imagine myself taking care of one 🙂
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Oh so cute! It must be so cool to have a twin! My boys always seem to end up fighting when I take my eyes off of them. Haha!
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oh my twins fight a lot too, and I let them, ha ha! well, as long as they’re not physically hurting each other of course. it’s ok daw to let kids sort out their conflicts by themselves. I offer guidance or suggestions sometimes, but there are also times when I just watch and they resolve their conflicts by themselves. at two years old, not bad!
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This is how it is when the kids are born close to each other, they play together. Such an adorable video!
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I’m so glad I got the patience and time to figure out iMovie, he he
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Your kids are cute. I suddenly missed my niece and nephew in the province.
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Omg, they are so cute. They’re so happy with each other’s company. Instant bestfriends.
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upon waking up, the first thing that they’d invariably do is look for each other. there’s really a bond there, even if they fight a lot too!
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Before, I like to have twins but I only have one son and whenever I ask him if he wants to have baby brother or sister, he always says no. Ayaw yata ng playmate.
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it’s your attention he doesn’t want to share, probably. gusto siguro siya lagi bida 🙂
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Naloloka na ko sa isa how much more twins pero it means double happiness naman 🙂
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That’s such a good quote, and it’s not far from the truth! Actually, I learned that everyday is a playdate not only with twins – everyday is a playdate with mom and dad!
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true. wala naman kasi silang ibang trabaho kundi maglaro, he he
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Adorable and ang saya ng twins! Parang gusto ko rin ng twins hehe.
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careful what you wish for, ha ha ha!
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Hahaha!
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I’ve got three kids with ages close to each other. So I get what you’re saying. I can let them do their thing as long as one of us are around to make sure they’re not cutting off an electric wire or sticking their heads in the toilet bowl, hehe.
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or, in our case, to prevent them from biting each other, ha ha!
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I want twin boys! Hehehe. My kids have 1.6 years age gap so they are pretty close. I enjoy watching them play together 🙂
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Cute!!! i should recommend your blog to my friend who’s expecting TWINSSSS!! Excited akoooo..
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yay, your friend is in for one heck of a ride! she can also join the FB group called Mothers of Multiples by LATCH, especially if she’s interested in breastfeeding her twins 🙂
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Aw… they’re so cute! Wish we also have twins!!! Ours is an only child so I usually get envious of moms with two or more kids, especially twins.
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your twins are so adorable. Now I want another child soon (as if ganun kadali hahaha)
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I am so inggit! I want to have twins too kaya lang wala naman sa lahi namin ang ganun. 😦
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THIS IS TOO MUCH! Too much cuteness!!! How lucky they play so well together!
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oh there are lots of squabbles too, ha ha ha! but they get over it really quickly, at least for now 😀
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